Boundaries for Peace

Boundaries and peace are usually not put together as a concept, yet I’ve found that without establishing personal boundaries, there will be no peace.

Let me expand my reasoning here…

See, when I lived back East, my blood family didn’t understand boundaries.  My life was theirs, and that was that.  I felt suffocated and did not appreciate being vicariously lived through.

So, I took a HUGE leap, and moved cross country to San Francisco, 1-way ticket, saying goodbye to family and friends.  Didn’t know anyone in California, but I did know intuitively that this is where I belong, where I will shine and prosper.

Little did I know that I would be a single mom of 5, with no family in sight to help me! 

However, I chose this path, and realize that I am actually blessed, because now I can pick and choose my spiritual family instead of trying to change my blood family to fit into my world.

Due to this reality, I am more free than ever, yet have more responsibility than ever.  I would choose freedom and peace over responsibility ANY DAY!  Wouldn’t you?

There have been people who have come and gone from our lives, because the boundaries that I set and communicated as to how I raise my children, as the Head of the Household, was disregarded.  And so, then, was the relationship.

My point in sharing this is the empowerment and peace we experience when we communicate clearly what it is that we will accept, and what we will not. 

Establishing personal boundaries is essential!

And, then we have the conscious choice to “put up” with someone who does not respect us, or to move forward with respect for ourselves.

When you develop a community around you that is aligned with you and your lifestyle, then there will be peace, and you will flourish!

So please open up to the possibilities of communicating your boundaries to your loved ones, with love and care, of course.

First, you might need to dig deep a bit and figure out what your boundaries are, as it isn’t really taught for us to look at this, as we are supposed to be nice, even if it leaves us feeling upset or out of sorts.

Try writing it down first, then communicate it to a few select people that you feel closest to.

Then let me know how it goes!!

Love to you,

Wendy Sue / Lady Clarity