The Cancellation of Obligation

Dear Friend and Fellow Seeker,

Have you run across the bitter pill called OBLIGATION — with family, friends, churches, temples, schools, etc., etc.?

First, let’s define obligation from the Merriam Webster dictionary, to make sure we are all on the same page here:

Obligation:  to cause (a person) to give in to pressure or to bind legally or morally : constrain

Yes, it is a constraint, especially when done morally.  Legally, well, you can fight the law if you must — but when a family member or a church friend obligates you to do such and such, there is little choice but to succumb or to deal with the repercussions of not following THEIR obligation properly.

LOL

OK, I’m not one to be constrained, or at least not very well, being the hummingbird that I am.  Yet, I’ve dealt with more constraint than most.  It’s interesting, when you run from something, it has a way to catch you on your blind side.

Now, I can honestly say that I never want to feel obligated, or constrained, again.  Of course, I am obliged to perform my professional duties, as I am receiving much appreciated income in return.

I am obliged to be as good a mother as possible, as God has blessed me with precious children that require my care and love.

In the same breath, however, I will not allow close relationships or church memberships to obligate me to do or be something that is not what I want to do or be!

I’ve been stewing on this obligations thing for awhile now, as it has always made my skin crawl, yet so many live in this fashion, and think it is OK.

My point in all of this is that maybe we can all try something new and RAISE the vibration of communities today –> instead of obligating a person, why not honor that person for who she / he is to you, and request for help (or whatever) with NO expectations or demands.  With humility and gratitude.

Maybe we can try to transform obligation from irritation to a celebration, where we celebrate one another and our gifts that we share together!

A M E N

Lady Clarity / Wendy Sue