To judge, or not to judge — that is the question!

** Mosaic done by my best friend, Anges de Lumiere **

 

Hello my friend,

To judge or not to judge, that is my question today.  Actually, it’s been a pondering question for many decades now, and today I feel like answering it from one (of many) angles.

Recently, I ran into a lot of things that people did in my intimate circle that I did not like, and was ready to drop them out of my (our) life.  It’s because I judged the way they acted as being less than the treatment that I deserve from them.

So do I think I’m someone special.  Yes, I do.

Don’t we all?

Maybe it’s because I’ve dealt with so much abuse, from my dad to my ex-husband, that I refuse to ever deal with anyone who treats me less than, what I consider to be, loving and kind.

So how can I judge others, and expect their behavior to be exemplary, when mine isn’t?!

Am I really dropping them or running away from them?  Maybe I’m seeing a reflection of me that I don’t want to see.   Or maybe I’m seeing that my expectations are way too high, and that none of us are perfect.

So, I’ve kept on with all of my relationships despite myself, and since then, they have all filled me up with love, sweetness, tenderness and generosity.

Maybe it was a bad week or two.  Or maybe it was letting go of my judgments of the way they treated me and just getting real that made all the difference.

As I write this, I smell this delicious incense that was given to me freely, as a generous gift, from one of the people I got frustrated with.

Life is so beautiful, and we are all so beautiful.  We don’t always act beautiful, and that is OK.  Bottom line is, let’s stop judging, holding on to grudges, and smell that fragrant incense of love!

Have a magnificent weekend, and God bless you,

Wendy Sue / Lady Clarity